Tuesday, March 31, 2009

No Lorens Left Behind

I'm the type of person who likes to test herself. I guess that's why I became a teacher. In college I had the option of taking classes on religion. One of my choices was The Sacrament of Marriage. I was newly engaged, and I figured, if I failed this class then I should cancel the whole thing. It was my test. I read my textbooks with fervor. I took feverish notes. I thought long and hard about every question the professor brought up. This is true. I used this course to judge and measure a major life choice, because I didn't completely trust my instincts. I got an A- in the class. It's probably because I hate to iron.

The class did me a lot of good, actually. It taught me the basics of marriage. What does that mean? I didn't really know then, but I have somewhat of an idea now. This is what I heard:

Love is a choice. It's about sacrifice, compromise and blind faith. Inviting God into your marriage is a good thing. He helps seal your commitment and keep it strong. Marriage is not about a pumpkin-carriage, glass shoe, prince charming. Marriage is one way God reveals his love to humans. Marriage can glorify God.

These words didn't make sense until I was married for a while. Then when we started to face "stuff" as a couple, I remembered the words. The class set my heart in the right direction in preparation for marriage, but the learning didn't stop there.

Marriage is a life-long course. It has the potential to change you for the better, but it requires constant work and effort. Who cares what I got in that class 12 years ago? What matters is that I am growing spiritually, emotionally, and intellectually from this relationship and that my marriage reflects God's love, touching the lives of others in a positive way.

So far, so good. Case in point, Milk Man is bringing in dinner tonight. Eight years ago he wanted to "mold" the puppy Hell Hound into a well-mannered dog. (Shhhh! I molded him.)


Elizabeth Kathryn Gerold-Miller said...

That's funny what works for your husband doesn't work for dogs. Wish you could've told that to Pavlov so I wouldn't have been forced to study his idiotic dog conditioning experiments in college.

Koala Bear Writer said...

Beautiful. Marriage is a wonderful, holy, amazing thing. And too many people just give up on it when the "stuff" hits. They're missing out!

Loren Christie said...

Again, Thanks for the comments!

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